We had a small group of close friends while in college and we loved hanging out at some of the famous places in the city ...(needless to say- mostly food joints/restaurants)...
Once, one of us kept a Rs. 5 coin as a tip after having dinner.
One of my friends took the coin back, arguing that it isn't the right time to tip. Its your parents money after all. You should start "tipping" only after u start earning yourself.
Who are you to spend Ur parents hard earned money in the form of a tip ! ?
Ahh.... that made "Absolute" sense.....!
but NOT for long....
yesterday I got this in a forwarded mail from a friend and was certainly touched!
i thank all my friends for forwarding such wonderful mails :-)
" One day, a ten-year-old boy went to an ice cream shop, sat at a table and asked the waitress, "How much is an ice-cream cone?" She said, "seventy-five cents." The boy started counting the coins he had in his hand. Then he asked how much a small cup of ice-cream was. The waitress impatiently replied, "sixty five cents." The boy said, "I will have the small ice-cream cup." He had his ice-cream, paid the bill and left. When the waitress came to pick up the empty plate, she was touched. Underneath were ten one-cent coins as tip. The little boy had consideration for the waitress before he ordered his ice-cream. He showed sensitivity and caring. He thought of others before himself. "
too good :-)
but there are some cases like .. >>these<< ".....where I would like to stick by my friends advice...! :-P
4 comments:
I remember reading this story in Shiv Khera's 'You can Win', and yes it makes a valid point. Also your friends argument draws a hard line between 'Your money' and 'Your Parents money', that somehow feels artificial and uncalled for.
""your friends argument draws a hard line between 'Your money' and 'Your Parents money', that somehow feels artificial and uncalled for.""
hmm...may B !
but today, many students cross their limits when it comes to spending money.
even though there isn't any requirement of a "hard line" ....theres certainly a need to realize its value and be responsible. :-)
may be thats precisely what my friend meant (though for a wrong reason i.e. tipping);-)
In some ways, what your friend tried to suggest makes sense. Tipping, in conventional sense is considered to be an act of extravagance. Actually what he might have implied by that is one shouldn't spend their parents' hard earned money irresponsibly or unjustifiably.(Btw, that doesn't mean your money and your parents' money is partitioned in deliberate different sets, its just about who earned it). Its assumed that you get to know the value of money when you start earning it yourself. And spending extravagantly, only after you know the value of the money you spend, sounds more mature. Now, keeping the idea of extravagance apart, what i have observed is, a majority of people leave tips not because they are caring or sensitive, but just to show off or just because everybody else does. Tipping for just a show off is definitely not something ideal. About tipping just because everybody else does, i would like to pull out one of the Osho's sayings. He says that the ultimate criterion for deciding whats right and whats wrong is "Awareness". If you do something in 'complete' awareness, it cant be wrong. And if you do something thats commonly considered to be good, but you do not do/perform it in awareness, then still its not right because you happen to do it for the wrong reasons. This "Awareness" criterion nonetheless fits here too. Tipping done with considerate and caring intentions should get classified as a "Good Deed".
So, basically, try figuring out the idea/intended sense instead of just looking at the literal meaning of the words.
Heres another story that has a lighter side to it.
Once Henry Ford had gone out for a dinner with friends. He wasn't quite happy with the service that he received. After paying the bill he left a 10$ tip. Looking at just 10$ the waiter exclaimed "Geez .... Your son never tips me less than a 100$". Henry Ford smiled back and said "His Dad is a millionaire. Mine isn't."
Btw, I am blessed with a poor memory, so i am not very sure if its about Henry Ford or some other businessman.
anyways,
Cheers
hmm ... that does make "Absolute" sense :-)
@N: you should start blogging ASAP :-P
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